What is a "Godly Man"?

Today, we put a lot of labels on a lot of things, the church is infiltrated with liberalism and new personalities, but the fact remains that using new terminology to describe something old does not change it from what it is. For example, you can call rheumatism arthritis but it hurts just the same, you can put poison in an aspirin bottle but it will still kill you. We can hold positions with titles and have great responsibilities in the church, and tell our wives that we are the ‘head of the house’ too, but these labels no more make us leaders than saying someone with athletes-foot is an athlete. Have you ever seen billboards or neon signs with letters burned out, or maybe some just flickering? That is representative of the average churches membership. Many churches today are teaching that they are to example leadership by standing with Isaiah and saying “Here am I, Send me”. But I submit to you that men burn out and flicker primarily because they have said “Here am I ” before they have ever said “Woe is me!”.

We are not equipped to say “Here am I ” until we have said “Woe is Me!” No where in scripture is a believer to be a ‘lone ranger’.

The Bible teaches that men need one another for encouragement, growth, and accountability (Proverbs 27:17; 1 Thessalonians 5:11; Romans 15:14; Hebrews 10:24). To be the man God purposes, men need to surround themselves with trusted friends who will be honest, transparent and confidential as things are shared. Relationships are crucial and will make or not, any ministry. All of us are more interested in relationship than a program. Authentic Christian piety necessitates we examine ourselves. Here are some suggested areas for looking at our most important relationships. I pray you will take one scripture a day, study it and meditate on it and allow God to change you from the inside out. I pray that my witness and yours is such that people can say of us what the Shumamite woman said of Elisha as recorded in II Kings 4:9 “I perceive this to be a Holy man of God, which passes by us regularly”.

Relationship with other Men: Ecclesiastes 4:9 Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor. 10 For if they fall, one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls, For he has no one to help him up. 11 Again, if two lie down together, they will keep warm; But how can one be warm alone? 12 Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him. And a threefold cord is not quickly broken. Proverbs 27:5-6 “Open rebuke is better than love carefully concealed. Faithful are the wounds of a friend, but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful”. Proverbs 27:9 Ointment and perfume delight the heart, and the sweetness of a man’s friend does so by hearty counsel. [A true friend both gives and accepts good counsel.]

Relationship with God: Would the people who know me best say that I am a “slave of righteousness”? (Rom 6:18) Do I seek God’s kingdom and righteousness (Matt 6:33) and am I zealous for the good works He has redeemed me to do (Titus 2:14)? Am I walking in purity before God? (Ex. 20:5-6; Josh 7:15, 22-26; II Sam 12:11; Ps. 112:1-2; Jer. 32:38-39) Integrity before God…? Moral purity before God…?

Relationship with my Wife: Am I (actively) loving her as Christ loved the church (Eph. 5:25)? Am I jealousy guarding our oneness? (Gen 2:24, Eph 5:31) Am I ruthlessly repenting of anything that may threaten my commitment to that oneness (Mal 2:14-16)? Would she say you are considerate to her and that you respect her? (I Peter 3:7) Do I protect her (Neh. 4:13-14; Numbers 30) Do I lead her? (Josh 24:15) Is she my glory? (I Corinthians 11:7) Do I really nourish and cherish her? (Eph 5:29) Am I ever harsh with her? (Col. 3:19) Does she ask me questions about the Bible and get accurate and humble answers? (I Cor. 14:34-35; Neh 8:13)

Relationship with my children: Am I praying for my children? (Job 1:5) In my prayer and parenting, do I take hold in faith God’s promises to be a God to my children (Gen. 17:7; Isa. 32:14-7; 44:3-4; 59:21; Joel 2:28-29; Acts 2:39)?

a bondservant of Christ and eternal brother to you, Larry

Posted on August 26, 2008, in Bible, Bible Study, Family, Wisdom. Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.

  1. Larry, After reading this I am even more committed to insuring my husband understands what God expects and what I deserve. Now I know why Cathy has that glow about her. Not only does she reflect the glory of GOD she also is a reflection of the love you pour into her. Yes she is your glory. It gives me hope to know there are real people who have made a commitment to each other and to GOD walking out the vision of marriage. One day I hope my husband and I can repair our relationship and be who Christ died for us to be. Relationship with my Wife:Am I (actively) loving her as Christ loved the church (Eph. 5:25)?Am I jealousy guarding our oneness? (Gen 2:24, Eph 5:31)Am I ruthlessly repenting of anything that may threaten my commitment to that oneness (Mal 2:14-16)?Would she say you are considerate to her and that you respect her? (I Peter 3:7)Do I protect her (Neh. 4:13-14; Numbers 30)Do I lead her? (Josh 24:15)Is she my glory? (I Corinthians 11:7)Do I really nourish and cherish her? (Eph 5:29)Am I ever harsh with her? (Col. 3:19)Does she ask me questions about the Bible and get accurate and humble answers? (I Cor. 14:34-35; Neh 8:13)

  2. Larry,Back in April my wife posted a message to you about our marriage; she has given me permission to follow up to the post and give our praises to God and thank you for allowing him to use you. The past year has been one of the hardest in my life, in her last post my wife talked about her leaving the marriage and this did happen. It was a hard wake up call. At first I thought well now I can move on, but God wouldn’t let up. Not long after my wife moved out I was fired from my job. Not long after this my daughter can in and caught me on a porn site. Needless to say all of my sin was being poured out for everyone to see. My wife came and got the children and I was left alone to face myself. That night as the reality of all I had lost settled in I began to pray Psalms 511 Have mercy on me, O God,according to your unfailing love; according to your great compassion blot out my transgressions. 2 Wash away all my iniquity and cleanse me from my sin.3 For I know my ransgressions, and my sin is always before me. 4 Against you, you only, have I sinned and done what is evil in your sight, so that you are proved right when you speak and justified when you judge.5 Surely I was sinful at birth sinful from the time my mother conceived me.6 Surely you desire truth in the inner parts you teach [b] me wisdom in the inmost place.7 Cleanse me with hyssop, and I will be clean; wash me, and I will be whiter than snow.8 Let me hear joy and gladness; let the bones you have crushed rejoice.9 Hide your face from my sins and blot out all my iniquity. 10 Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. 11 Do not cast me from your presence or take your Holy Spirit from me.12 Restore to me the joy of your salvation and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me.13 Then I will teach transgressors your ways, and sinners will turn back to you. 14 Save me from bloodguilt, O God, the God who saves me and my tongue will sing of your righteousness.15 O Lord, open my lips, and my mouth will declare your praise. 16 You do not delight in sacrifice, or I would bring it; you do not take pleasure in burnt offerings. 17 The sacrifices of God are [c] a broken spirit; a broken and contrite heart, O God, you will not despise.18 In your good pleasure make Zion prosper; build up the walls of Jerusalem. 19 Then there will be righteous sacrifices, whole burnt offerings to delight you; then bulls will be offered on your altar.The next day I called my wife and asked if we could talk. Amazingly she agreed you see God had been working on her too. She had spent a lot of time reading your blog site and from there she had begun to spend time in the word. I confessed everything to her and asked if she could ever forgive me. It has not been easy, I have had to reenter the job market and with duel living residences we could not keep up our bills. We also have spent time in counseling working through the issues that brought us here. As of Monday I am now living once again. When I say living I mean living the fullness of all God intended me to be. I am home; I have a wife who loves God enough to not give up on me. My daughter she sat down and talked to me a few weeks ago about how the pictures she saw me looking at made her feel. All steps to restoration.Larry, I will never say this to your face or maybe one day I will have forgiven myself enough to able too but I want to say publicly here Thank you. Thank you for sharing with those women what a Godly husband is. Thank you for loving your wife and building her. Thank you for maintaining a forum where you can pour out what God pours in to you for others. You will be richly rewarded. As a side note you and Cathy really need to pray about a marriage ministry, there are many in the church who are hurting. I can tell you, you would not have trouble getting doors open in this area. I have talked to several couples and I always refer them to your site.

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