What is a "Godly Man"?
Today, we put a lot of labels on a lot of things, the church is infiltrated with liberalism and new personalities, but the fact remains that using new terminology to describe something old does not change it from what it is. For example, you can call rheumatism arthritis but it hurts just the same, you can put poison in an aspirin bottle but it will still kill you. We can hold positions with titles and have great responsibilities in the church, and tell our wives that we are the ‘head of the house’ too, but these labels no more make us leaders than saying someone with athletes-foot is an athlete. Have you ever seen billboards or neon signs with letters burned out, or maybe some just flickering? That is representative of the average churches membership. Many churches today are teaching that they are to example leadership by standing with Isaiah and saying “Here am I, Send me”. But I submit to you that men burn out and flicker primarily because they have said “Here am I ” before they have ever said “Woe is me!”.
We are not equipped to say “Here am I ” until we have said “Woe is Me!” No where in scripture is a believer to be a ‘lone ranger’.
The Bible teaches that men need one another for encouragement, growth, and accountability (Proverbs 27:17; 1 Thessalonians 5:11; Romans 15:14; Hebrews 10:24). To be the man God purposes, men need to surround themselves with trusted friends who will be honest, transparent and confidential as things are shared. Relationships are crucial and will make or not, any ministry. All of us are more interested in relationship than a program. Authentic Christian piety necessitates we examine ourselves. Here are some suggested areas for looking at our most important relationships. I pray you will take one scripture a day, study it and meditate on it and allow God to change you from the inside out. I pray that my witness and yours is such that people can say of us what the Shumamite woman said of Elisha as recorded in II Kings 4:9 “I perceive this to be a Holy man of God, which passes by us regularly”.
Relationship with other Men: Ecclesiastes 4:9 Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor. 10 For if they fall, one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls, For he has no one to help him up. 11 Again, if two lie down together, they will keep warm; But how can one be warm alone? 12 Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him. And a threefold cord is not quickly broken. Proverbs 27:5-6 “Open rebuke is better than love carefully concealed. Faithful are the wounds of a friend, but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful”. Proverbs 27:9 Ointment and perfume delight the heart, and the sweetness of a man’s friend does so by hearty counsel. [A true friend both gives and accepts good counsel.]
Relationship with God: Would the people who know me best say that I am a “slave of righteousness”? (Rom 6:18) Do I seek God’s kingdom and righteousness (Matt 6:33) and am I zealous for the good works He has redeemed me to do (Titus 2:14)? Am I walking in purity before God? (Ex. 20:5-6; Josh 7:15, 22-26; II Sam 12:11; Ps. 112:1-2; Jer. 32:38-39) Integrity before God…? Moral purity before God…?
Relationship with my Wife: Am I (actively) loving her as Christ loved the church (Eph. 5:25)? Am I jealousy guarding our oneness? (Gen 2:24, Eph 5:31) Am I ruthlessly repenting of anything that may threaten my commitment to that oneness (Mal 2:14-16)? Would she say you are considerate to her and that you respect her? (I Peter 3:7) Do I protect her (Neh. 4:13-14; Numbers 30) Do I lead her? (Josh 24:15) Is she my glory? (I Corinthians 11:7) Do I really nourish and cherish her? (Eph 5:29) Am I ever harsh with her? (Col. 3:19) Does she ask me questions about the Bible and get accurate and humble answers? (I Cor. 14:34-35; Neh 8:13)
Relationship with my children: Am I praying for my children? (Job 1:5) In my prayer and parenting, do I take hold in faith God’s promises to be a God to my children (Gen. 17:7; Isa. 32:14-7; 44:3-4; 59:21; Joel 2:28-29; Acts 2:39)?
a bondservant of Christ and eternal brother to you, Larry